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I’ve been reflecting on something lately that has to do with the sincerity and quality of friendships. When choosing our friends, we aim to be around and associate with like-minded people. People who share similar interests and basic morals, etc. People who brighten our world and not darken it. People who are sincere and honest, no matter the cost. Not that friends will agree with each other about everything because people have their own opinions about different things, and in a way that can be a good and healthy thing. However, when you find that your core beliefs are different pertaining to right and wrong, and those things that affect human beings and societies as a whole, you may have a problem and may need to examine that friendship. I know a lot of people, but there are few people I call my friends because I take friendship very seriously. From time to time, you have to weed out the ones in the batch that have proven to be disingenuous and shady. That’s for your own good. People like that, at any moment, can turn on you because they lack basic morals and principles. If, for instance, you believe that what Hitler did to those Jews was horrible and your friend acts as if there wasn’t really anything wrong with it, you need to examine that friendship. If you see something that adversely affects other people and you’re heart-broken about it and your friend doesn’t seem to care one iota, you need to examine that friendship. If you see your friend is nosy and tends to gossip about everybody, what makes you think they don’t already do the same thing to you–running you down behind your back? Surely, people have certain views and opinions, but there are some things that cannot and should not be compromised. I personally cannot deal with people who refuse to put right where right is and wrong where wrong is. If they ever get the opportunity to stand up for you, they won’t do it. If there is no sincerity, no compassion, no heart, no meeting of the minds that speak truth and desire goodness to prevail, then maybe that friendship is nothing but a sham. How can two walk together unless they agree–at least on those things that matter the most in this life? How can a person who is truthful (who calls a spade a spade) have a meaningful friendship with someone who is shady and pretentious? That doesn’t compute. If it doesn’t uplift you, it’s bringing you down. Friendship is never about quantity, but quality. Just a reflection.
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Mira Cullen is prompted to fly out to The Bahamas to meet a man her brother Wade must introduce her to. Daniel Smith believes it’s providence that a chance encounter with Wade has resulted in him meeting the one person who could possibly bring to light and put to rest an age-old mystery involving his beloved mother. Smith, a product of “the contract”, which took place decades earlier — deems it an opportunity that literally sustained the lives of many, but in whose clutches also stole the life of the one person he loved more than anything else in the world.
Will Mira’s attempt to uncover the truth ultimately grieve the one who yearns for it? Or will the final discovery prove to be bitter-sweet?
(Women Issues #3)
These days, many girls are growing up insecure about themselves. The reason why I state “insecure about themselves” is because they tend to be looking for security within someone else, leaving themselves completely out of the equation. It’s so important for every girl to embrace and accept who she is and to not rely on others to make her feel special or important. If her security comes from outside sources, she never truly sees herself as a “whole”, but as a fragment of someone else’s perceptions, emotions or sentiments as they relate to her. She then, in turn, grows up to be a “needy” woman, always feeling as if she’s lacking something, which is completeness. Her negative viewpoint becomes the steering wheel in her life and she struggles well into adulthood and for many–old age. That’s not how any woman is supposed to live. We are so much more. We can do so much more.
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Have you ever been made to feel like you weren’t good enough? Do you still struggle with those feelings today or with depression? If you were asked to describe yourself, what would you say?
The definition of beauty has confused young girls and women throughout the ages. So much so that it has led to depression, isolation, eating disorders, anger, and self-image obsessions that have prevented people from living their best life and drove others to the verge of suicide. The problem continues today. Find out how to become the woman you were destined to be.
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When I was growing up in the seventies and eighties, we didn’t have social media and internet access like what teenagers have today. Our form of “socializing” was in person on the school campus, fast food restaurants or around the neighborhood. We didn’t have hand-held devices to get lost in and we actually stayed in touch with friends via our home phone as cell phone texts were not an option then. There was no cyber-bullying. If anyone got teased, it was usually at school and no world-wide web to continue the torture on. There was no “online dating”; you got to know each other in person. Personally, I’m glad I grew up in that era. Young people today are blessed with technology, but with it comes with serious issues as well.
Today, so many people hide behind their cell phones and social media, and spend less and less time with the people they love. Some have used technology to hurt and embarrass others publicly with posts that are never removed; some of which have driven persons to commit suicide. In other words… people are now able to be cruel to each other on an even larger scale than ever before. For example: Posting nude pictures of love interests who once trusted them, etc. has been a common thing and the stories go on and on. And what’s strange is that with all the “friends” we make on social media and “followers” of our various accounts, people find themselves alone and empty. Yes, technology is a huge blessing and has brought many positive experiences to the lives of many, but on the other hand, it is also used in a destructive way. I feel for kids growing up today — those who have been targets on social media and not knowing where to turn or what to do. It’s a very sad situation.
Girls, in particular, need to have a healthy balance of self-esteem and confidence to help them through the maze of puberty and adulthood. Tools that will help them to make good decisions and to refrain from situations that can prove detrimental in the long run. They need to never be convinced by a so-called boyfriend who loves them to take naked pictures which may be used against them after there’s been an argument or the relationship has ended. Self-worth and value should be in the forefront of every girl’s mind and affectionate words and actions by a partner should never be enough to convince them to put themselves in a potentially damaging situation. When every girl/woman gets to know her value, she’ll be amazed by the inner strength that comes with it.
If you’re interested in the book I co-wrote that’s geared toward girls and women of all ages, the link to it is below. It’s currently widely available online. And after you’ve read it, I would really appreciate if you’d leave your comments about it on Amazon or wherever you purchased it from.
Until next time, take care, be safe and in spite of what you’ve been told, I want you to know that you are BEAUTIFUL.
I realized long ago that having the right self-image and self-esteem are important components in a woman’s life and that of young girls. The lack of self-esteem and a poor self-image has done so much damage largely due to the false definition tied into what “society” calls “beautiful”. How do you define it? Is it that model on TV who probably looks nothing like you? Is that what real beauty is? It’s really sad because a lot of girls have grown up thinking just that — believing that largely unspoken, misleading definition of what being beautiful is. This has scarred many for life because they couldn’t live up to that myth. Poor self-esteem was the result and for some came depression, eating disorders and unhealthy obsessive behavior. A woman around my age (I’m now 48) recently told me she’s been struggling with the image she’s had of herself all of her life. Sometimes it’s outsiders who contributed to such a feeling and other times it’s been parents or other family members, not realizing that their words were powerfully influencing that child in a negative way that would stay with them throughout their childhood and into adulthood. Our behaviors/actions as adults have usually been determined by the experiences of our past. There comes a time though when we have to face the disappointments and injustices of our past head on. Confront them by taking a good look into ourselves and find out what it is that causes us today to think less of ourselves or to shy away from others when the fact is no one is better or less important than we are.
I’ve co-written a book titled: ‘I Didn’t Know I Was Beautiful: The Real & Raw Facts That Every Woman on The Planet Should Know’. It’s a collaborative effort with my teenage daughter (she’s nineteen), who at eighteen-years-old established her first online business and now has three of them that are doing very well. She even makes her very own line of lip glosses, lip balms and scrubs! She, neither I was born with a silver spoon in our mouth. We know about struggles, hard work and determination to succeed and when we fail (which we all do), to try again… and again. She’s also working her way through college as a Law student and fighting against the barriers that have appeared before her. Hopefully, this book can inspire other young girls and older women to strive in the midst of adversity and to prove the naysayers wrong. Growing up these days as a teenager is rough because there’s so much coming against the youth in all different directions, but having a good self-esteem and a clear focus as to what you want to achieve makes the impossible dream possible. If the image you have of yourself is poor as a young girl or as an adult, it stagnates you, making it so difficult to get ahead because most of the time, you’re subconsciously enveloped by thoughts that you’re not good enough, smart enough, pretty enough or that you don’t have what it takes to make it. Hopefully, this book will help a lot of people to see the truth and discard all the lies that have been spoken throughout the years.
I will try to be more active on this blog as this topic is so important. I was once a shy teenager. I was teased when I was a small child and know the pain of that experience and never forgot it. When I became a young businesswoman I realized the importance of being able to speak confidently to people if I was going to make my business work. I worked on myself and since then, have never looked back. That’s just one example. I hope as we reflect more deeply on what matters to girls and women, we’d be a positive influence on each other. If you’re interested in the book, you can find it here as an ebook and in paperback at Amazon or on other platforms here.
Until next time, take care, be safe and in spite of what you’ve been told, I want you to know that you are beautiful.
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