A wise person doesn’t just digest every bit of information he is fed. While listening, he is instinctively examining the source of that information (the person who is sharing it). The way he handles the knowledge–whether to believe, disbelieve, remain neutral or other–depends upon whether the source is a natural gossiper, back-biter, snake, or someone who is honorable and trustworthy. When it comes to information, always examine your source: It makes all the difference in the world.
While you’re busy treating others carelessly or maliciously, particularly the ones you’re supposed to care for and love, just keep this one thing in mind: Even if there comes a time when they actually forgive you, you may be left with only a “shell” of a relationship – if any at all. Forgiveness may be found in the human heart, but the memory of the treatment still lingers to some degree in the mind. A wise person knows this and is careful to conduct himself accordingly.
When people have proven time and time again that they are toxic to your life – whether it is by the constant sulkiness of their attitude (the inability to see or appreciate anything good in life regardless of encouragement), unrelenting negativity or their overall tendency to pull you down, you need to make a decision whether frequent contact with them is somehow making your life better or having the opposite effect. It’s sometimes better to pull out, instead of getting pulled down.
Trust is something that can save your life or cause you to lose it. Who you choose to place your trust in should be one that has been time-tested, survived the ups and downs and who stuck with you when no one else did. However, even then you must be careful as people are imperfect beings and fall weak at times just like you do. One hundred percent trust should be reserved for God. It is never wise to trust everyone, but at the same time neither is it to trust no one.
Some persons tend to think that “it’s all about them”( you know the ones — totally self-conceited; want others to take interest in what concerns them and rarely, if ever return the favor; they don’t feel anyone’s pain except their own) and no amount of words will convince them that it’s not. In this case when dealing with such ‘delusional’ individuals, your actions must speak louder than your words. Perhaps then and only then, they will finally understand that other people matter just as much.