Hi, Everyone. I’ve been so busy lately promoting my new book that I didn’t get a chance to blog about a topic that has been on my mind now for a little while. I’ve titled this blog: ‘Jealousy Stagnates’ for a very important reason that I’m about to lay out here right now.
Have you ever had a friend whom you always compliment even for the slightest thing like a new hair-do / hair cut or for even bigger things like a promotion on the job or some other type of success, yet for some reason when there’s something new about you / something worthy of a compliment, that friend is utterly quiet? Got any ‘friends’ like that? How does it feel to be the only one complimenting all the time as if you’re on a one-way street? I guess you’ve thought about it, but don’t really vocalize it- particularly to your friend.
The thing is… I realize that some people came from backgrounds where no one ever or rarely ever complimented them for anything they did that was noteworthy – whether in the smaller sense or the larger sense of the word – and so as they grow and mature, they don’t know how to express compliments to others even though they are now being complimented by others. They feel awkward expressing such kindness and therefore, they don’t put in the effort to break out of the box, so to speak. I’ve met some really good people that are like that: They really have that issue because they came from some unimaginably tough backgrounds and thus, being ‘nice’ like that is something they have to work on. Okay, with that out of the way, let’s get on to the crux of the matter (thusly, the title).
Many other people in this world today simply hate to see even the ones they claim to love, get ahead. That’s the fact of the matter. If they’re not doing something that’s positive and worthy of respect or accolades themselves, they don’t believe anyone else should receive any type of accolades or recognition (not that accolades is something you should be looking for). In other words, some people just have such contaminated hearts that they can’t see themselves happy for anyone. Those type of people are rightly in the ‘stagnated’ category… and they’ve put themselves there unknowingly. See, when a person is envious of another person, they find themselves not achieving those things that they greatly desire. It’s not that they don’t have the ability to achieve those things; it’s just that they’ve planted seeds of envy that have taken root and sprouted in their lives, and they find themselves stagnated seemingly like ‘forever’ from getting to the point where they really would like to be.
What’s the remedy?: Learn how to be happy for others. I have a whole chapter in ‘Seeing Beyond The Natural’ book that speaks about that. I knew it needed to be there. If people learn how to do that and actually work at it, they will find themselves moving forward in the direction they were ‘pre-destined’ to go. There’s no way they can miss their destiny. However, if they allow jealousy to consume them (some to the point where they can’t even pay a person a simple compliment) they will find themselves stagnated – most likely – permanently. What a sad, miserable way to exist.
Let’s rise above that negativity and be the best that we can be for ourselves and each other by having the right type of heart and mind-set as we continue our journey in this world.
Have a great day and all the best to you.