Women Issues (1)

I realized long ago that having the right self-image and self-esteem are important components in a woman’s life and that of young girls. The lack of self-esteem and a poor self-image has done so much damage largely due to the false definition tied into what “society” calls “beautiful”. How do you define it? Is it that model on TV who probably looks nothing like you? Is that what real beauty is? It’s really sad because a lot of girls have grown up thinking just that — believing that largely unspoken, misleading definition of what being beautiful is. This has scarred many for life because they couldn’t live up to that myth. Poor self-esteem was the result and for some came depression, eating disorders and unhealthy obsessive behavior. A woman around my age (I’m now 48) recently told me she’s been struggling with the image she’s had of herself all of her life. Sometimes it’s outsiders who contributed to such a feeling and other times it’s been parents or other family members, not realizing that their words were powerfully influencing that child in a negative way that would stay with them throughout their childhood and into adulthood. Our behaviors/actions as adults have usually been determined by the experiences of our past. There comes a time though when we have to face the disappointments and injustices of our past head on. Confront them by taking a good look into ourselves and find out what it is that causes us today to think less of ourselves or to shy away from others when the fact is no one is better or less important than we are.

I’ve co-written a book titled: ‘I Didn’t Know I Was Beautiful: The Real & Raw Facts That Every Woman on The Planet Should Know’. It’s a collaborative effort with my teenage daughter (she’s nineteen), who at eighteen-years-old established her first online business and now has three of them that are doing very well. She even makes her very own line of lip glosses, lip balms and scrubs! She, neither I was born with a silver spoon in our mouth. We know about struggles, hard work and determination to succeed and when we fail (which we all do), to try again… and again. She’s also working her way through college as a Law student and fighting against the barriers that have appeared before her. Hopefully, this book can inspire other young girls and older women to strive in the midst of adversity and to prove the naysayers wrong. Growing up these days as a teenager is rough because there’s so much coming against the youth in all different directions, but having a good self-esteem and a clear focus as to what you want to achieve makes the impossible dream possible. If the image you have of yourself is poor as a young girl or as an adult, it stagnates you, making it so difficult to get ahead because most of the time, you’re subconsciously enveloped by thoughts that you’re not good enough, smart enough, pretty enough or that you don’t have what it takes to make it. Hopefully, this book will help a lot of people to see the truth and discard all the lies that have been spoken throughout the years.

I will try to be more active on this blog as this topic is so important. I was once a shy teenager. I was teased when I was a small child and know the pain of that experience and never forgot it. When I became a young businesswoman I realized the importance of being able to speak confidently to people if I was going to make my business work. I worked on myself and since then, have never looked back. That’s just one example. I hope as we reflect more deeply on what matters to girls and women, we’d be a positive influence on each other. If you’re interested in the book, you can find it here as an ebook and in paperback at Amazon or on other platforms here.

Until next time, take care, be safe and in spite of what you’ve been told, I want you to know that you are beautiful.

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THE CONTRACT: Murder in The Bahamas Released Today!

Many “well-to-do” people have had depressing thoughts and suicidal tendencies — not knowing who to turn to or confide in. They believe an outward show of success will solve their problems and subdue their inner demons, but “achieving it all” and “having it all” fail to erase that nagging emotional pain. Daniel J. Smith tried a few times to end his life, but failed, and finally he thought “Maybe there’s a reason I’m still here”. Read his troubling story in book 5 of the Cornelius Saga Series released today on Amazon as an ebook and in paperback at major online retailers.


Cornelius saga book 5 - THE CONTRACT FINAL COVER with new Subtitle (circular sharpened



ARE YOU BATTLING WITH DEPRESSION, ANXIETY, HOPELESSNESS? Does it seem like an endless struggle for you based on life’s trials? I want you to know that there is Hope — a beautiful light at the end of the tunnel. If you are open to learn the valuable truths that I have learned along my own journey – and implement them into your life – you will find yourself on the pathway to the miraculous.

‘Seeing Beyond The Natural’ is a revolutionary book that will change your mind, change your perspective… change your life! You will never be the same again.

‘SEEING BEYOND THE NATURAL’ Makes Top 100 Best-sellers’ List

‘SEEING BEYOND THE NATURAL, Student: Me…Professor: God’  Makes Amazon Kindle’s Top 100 paid Best-sellers’ List in Three Separate Categories. God is certainly getting His book in the eyes of the masses. What a wonderful God He is!

Get your copy here if you need encouragement, spiritual enlightenment and strength to face another day. Read about real- life miracles — one involving my father and daughter and many more awesome experiences of God working in  supernatural, miraculous ways.

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Link for Barnes & Noble: http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/seeing-beyond-the-natural-mrs-tanya-r-taylor/1118891369?ean=9781496155030

‘Jealousy Stagnates’

Hi, Everyone. I’ve been so busy lately promoting my new book that I didn’t get a chance to blog about a topic that has been on my mind now for a little while. I’ve titled this blog: ‘Jealousy Stagnates’ for a very important reason that I’m about to lay out here right now.

Have you ever had a friend whom you always compliment even for the slightest thing like a new hair-do / hair cut or for even bigger things like a promotion on the job or some other type of success, yet for some reason when there’s something new about you / something worthy of a compliment, that friend is utterly quiet? Got any ‘friends’ like that? How does it feel to be the only one complimenting all the time as if you’re on a one-way street? I guess you’ve thought about it, but don’t really vocalize it- particularly to your friend.

The thing is… I realize that some people came from backgrounds where no one ever or rarely ever complimented them for anything they did that was noteworthy – whether in the smaller sense or the larger sense of the word – and so as they grow and mature, they don’t know how to express compliments to others even though they are now being complimented by others. They feel awkward expressing such kindness and therefore, they don’t put in the effort to break out of the box, so to speak. I’ve met some really good people that are like that: They really have that issue because they came from some unimaginably tough backgrounds and thus, being ‘nice’ like that is something they have to work on. Okay, with that out of the way, let’s get on to the crux of the matter (thusly, the title).

Many other people in this world today simply hate to see even the ones they claim to love, get ahead. That’s the fact of the matter. If they’re not doing something that’s positive and worthy of respect or accolades themselves, they don’t believe anyone else should receive any type of accolades or recognition (not that accolades is something you should be looking for). In other words, some people just have such contaminated hearts that they can’t see themselves happy for anyone. Those type of people are rightly in the ‘stagnated’ category… and they’ve put themselves there unknowingly. See, when a person is envious of another person, they find themselves not achieving those things that they greatly desire. It’s not that they don’t have the ability to achieve those things; it’s just that they’ve planted seeds of envy that have taken root and sprouted in their lives, and they find themselves stagnated seemingly like ‘forever’ from getting to the point where they really would like to be.

What’s the remedy?: Learn how to be happy for others. I have a whole chapter in ‘Seeing Beyond The Natural’ book that speaks about that. I knew it needed to be there. If people learn how to do that and actually work at it, they will find themselves moving forward in the direction they were ‘pre-destined’ to go. There’s no way they can miss their destiny. However, if they allow jealousy to consume them (some to the point where they can’t even pay a person a simple compliment) they will find themselves stagnated – most likely – permanently. What a sad, miserable way to exist.

Let’s rise above that negativity and be the best that we can be for ourselves and each other by having the right type of heart and mind-set as we continue our journey in this world.

Have a great day and all the best to you.